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As I write this, the United States is entering the second wave of the COVID-19 Pandemic, continuing to battle systemic racism and police shootings of Black people, like Walter Wallace & still others, while many Americans are still losing their jobs or experiencing economic hardships. And, the much-anticipated Presidential Election has come and gone, with …

The Blessing Underneath:
Holding It All Together in Uncertain Times Read More »

I have worn glasses for most of my life, except for a period when I decided it just was not “cool” to wear glasses anymore.  If you have ever worn glasses of any kind, whether prescribed or for pleasure, you know what it’s like to get something on the lenses of your glasses, like a …

Hazy Shade of Mate:
5 Cognitive Distortions That Can Hurt Your Marriage Read More »

I hate to be “Captain Obvious” however, we are currently living and loving our spouses in the most unprecedented times in human history.  The year 2020 started with the entire world, but especially the United States, battling the Coronavirus, which turned our lives upside down and inside out.  The summer was ushered in by the …

Functioning During the Dysfunction Read More »

On August 26, 2018, Tracy and I celebrated our 26th Wedding Anniversary. Twenty-six years ago, we pledged before God (and Judge W.T. Spicer), to stay together, “for richer or poorer, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.” In honor of this achievement, allow me to share with you …

26 for 26 Read More »

Recently during my devotional time, I was reading Philippians 2:3. It states, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.” (NLT) After reading this and self-reflecting on it for a few moments, I thought to myself, “God, this is a tall order for me individually!” Then …

3 Things Every Marriage Needs Read More »

Recently, the area where we reside had a ridiculously warm month of December. The temperatures were in the mid 70’s to the low 80’s for essentially the entire month. To my dismay, my grass, which would normally not be growing at all began to grow. And notwithstanding I hate to see weeds growing from my …

Dandelions in December Read More »

When counseling pre-marital & marital couples, one of the first questions we ask them is, “Why do you want to get married? Or “Why did you get married?” The responses of both groups are always in the same neighborhood of: “We love each other, ” “We are best friends,” or “I can’t see myself without …

Why Did I get Married? Read More »

I recently took my daughter to the dentist office for her annual cleaning and x-rays. The dentist office was unlike anything I had ever seen – it was completely and totally tailored to the desires of children. The waiting room had several video game stations for kids to play their favorite video games while they …

Finding the FUN in your Marriage Read More »

Every married couple probably enjoys the story of “Cinderella.”  I read the story as a child and my wife and I have watched numerous movie versions of it over the years (some better than others).  While I enjoyed the book as a child, some of the movies as an adult, and I appreciate the magical …

Fairytale vs. Faith Read More »

I am a huge fan of comic book superheroes.  One of my favorite superheroes is of course, Superman.  I was shocked, along with the rest of the nation, when the unimaginable happened in 1992:  Superman died!  How could that happen?  Superman is…well, he is Superman for goodness sakes.  He is the world’s most powerful being…faster …

The Death of the Super-Marriage Read More »